Posts made by Ariel and Christina.
Aesthetic Attraction: (es-ˈthe-tik attraction) Attraction to someone based on finding them attractive or aesthetically pleasing though you don’t necessarily want a sexual or romantic connection with them.
Ableism: (əb(ə)l-ism) prejudice or discrimination towards non able bodied or aneurotypical people.
Allosexual: Person who experiences sexual attraction
Androsexuality: An orientation based on sexual attraction to men
Asexuality: An orientation based on not feeling any sexual attraction
Aromantic: An orientation based on not feeling any romantic attraction
Bisexuality: An orientation based on being sexually attracted to genders that are the same as and different than your gender.
Butch: usually used in the lesbian or queer community for a person with more mascuiline features or way of dress, also a gender identity for some.
CAFAB: (K-Fab) Coercively Assigned Female at birth, similar to FAAB, those assigned the female gender at birth.
CAMAB: (K-Mab) Coercively Assigned Male at birth, similar to MAAB, athose given assigned the male gender at birth
cis gender: (sis gender) Anyone whose gender identity matches their designated sex. Whenever any baby is born the doctor will proclaim it’s sex. Sometimes that child’s gender identity isn’t the same as that proclamation, when its not they may identify as trans* if it does match up they are cis. Etymology: same as trans, Latin, you may have heard it in math or science classes. Also they’re both used in every day language with words like transatlantic or cisalpine. Cis means on the same side, or in science/math terms when groups lie on the same side of a given plane, meaning both their gender identity and designated sex/gender are the same
Circumcision: The removal of the foreskin and sometimes surrounding area from the penis.
cissexism: (sis-sexism) prejudice or discrimination towards trans people (preferable to transphobia as -phobia words can be offensive and abelism)
Clitorodynia: (Clit-or-o-die-nia) Much like vulvadynia only the condition only affects the clitoris
Consent: deciding freely and voluntarily to engage in an activity
Cumming/cum/come/coming: Can be used to either describe orgasm, ejaculation or ejaculate.
Cunnilingus: (Cun-i-lingus) Oral sex involving a “vulva”, eating out, going down
Demisexual: An orientation within the asexual spectrum based on only feeling sexual attraction after a strong bond is formed.
Discrimination: unfair or unequal treatment of people based on their appearance, behavior, or (presumed or real) identity
DFAB: (Dee-Fab) Designated Female at Birth
DMAB: (Dee-Mab) Designated Male at Birth
Ejaculation: the expelling of liquids from the genitals. This can occur in a penis or a vulva. With vulval ejaculation, true ejaculation is a secretion from the skene’s gland much like what the prostate produces to put in semen and it comes from the urethral opening. However, ejaculation can also refer to vaginal lubrication being expelled from the vagina.
Ejaculate: another name for either semen or that which is secreted from the skene’s gland, or vaginal lubrication.
FAAB: (Fab) Female Assigned at birth. Similar to DFAB and CFAB
Fellatio: (fə-ˈlā-shē-ˌō) Oral sex involving a “penis”; blow jobs, going down
Femme: used in the queer community, for more feminine features or style of dress, also a gender identity for some.
Fetish: (fe-tish) Something that is needed for sexual gratification or orgasm.
FGM: Female Genital Mutilation (apologies for the gendered language) removal of the clitoris and sometimes surrounding area on the vulva.
FTM: (Eff-Tee-Em) Female to male trans person, also referred to as trans man/male. This is outdated and offensive to some.
Gender: A person’s inner sense of being a certain gender, whether it’s a man, woman, or other. It may be based on feelings about your body, feelings about your gender presentation, or many other things.
Gender Confirmation Surgery: a procedure that changes a person’s external features to better match their gender identity.
Genderfluid: individuals who move between two or more different gender identities or expressions at different times or in different situations.
Genderqueer: an umbrella term covering non-normative gender identity and gender expression. The label may also be used by individuals wishing to identify as holding queer or non-normative gender without being any more specific about the nature of their gender.
Genderneutral pronouns: pronouns used either when you don’t know the gender of a person or where they prefer pronouns that aren’t gendered. Common ones are They/them or zie/hir.
Gender Presentation/Gender Expression: Refers to the ways in which people externally communicate their gender identity to others through behavior, clothing, haircut, voice, and other forms of presentation. Should not be used as an indication of gender or sexual orientation.
Gender Roles: The social and behavioural norms for a certain gender. Ex: the male is the provider and the female cooks, cleans and raises children. Although we are starting to move past this in our society, gender roles can still be seen in society and popular media. Can especially be confusing and unhealthy in regards to non binary or non cis gender people.
Genital Integrity: the belief that personal security is an inalienable human right and that every individual has the right to be free from unwanted genital surgeries.
Grey-Asexual (Grey-A): an orientation within the asexual spectrum based on only sometimes experiencing sexual attraction.
GSRM: (Gee-Ess-Em) Gender and Romantic or Sexuality (sexual orientation) Minorities
GSRD: Gender and Romantic or Sexuality Diversity
Gynosexuality: Orientation based on sexual attraction to women
heterosexism: (Hetero-sexism) prejudice or discrimination towards homosexual or queer people (preferable to homophobia as -phobia words can be offensive and abelism)
HRT: (ach-ar-tee) Hormone Replacement therapy, when someone is put on the hormone opposite of what is naturally the highest hormone in their body, IE going on estrogen when you are a person with more testosterone.
Human rights: the basic protections and entitlements due to every human being. These rights are inalienable. That is, they cannot be taken away from anyone. A partial list includes the rights to: food and shelter; education; health care; civic participation and expression; equal treatment before the law; and treatment with respect and dignity. People’s ability to fully exercise their human rights affects virtually every aspect of their lives.
Identity: the way people think of themselves, or describe themselves to others. The way that others perceive someone’s appearance or behavior does not necessarily match that person’s own sense of identity. People typically have more than one aspect to their identity. For example, a person can identify as a boy, a Hindu, and also as a student. Identity can come from belonging to a community. The way people identify themselves may change over time. (“Identity” may also refer to formal recognition of a person by the state, such as having a name, birth registration, and nationality.)
Intactivism: Activism focusing on bringing awareness to routine genital surgeries on infants and working towards outlawing or reducing their practice.
Intersex: a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy, hormones, or genetics that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.
Kegels: (ˈkā-gəls) Exercises for the pelvic floor muscles. They can help treat Vaginismus and menstrual cramps as well as prostate pain and inflammation.
Kink: Something that is found arousing
LGBT+: (El-Gee-Bee-Tee plus) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender. Can also refer to other gender, sex, and sexuality minorities
Love: An intense feeling of affection
MAAB: (Mab) Male Assigned at birth. Similar to DMAB and CMAB
Manual sex: any kind of sexual act involving hands stimulating the genitals. Also known as digital sex.
Monogamy: Technically the sate of being married to only one person, although it’s also used for meaning only being sexually and romantically with one person. Monoamory can also be used.
Monosexism: (mono-sexism) prejudice or descrimination of people who are attracted to more than one gender (preferable to biphobia as it is more inclusive and -phobia words can be offensive and abelism)
MTF: (Em-Tee-Ef) Male to female trans person, also referred to as trans woman/female. This is outdated and offensive to some.
Multisexuality: Someone who is attracted to two or more genders
Neutrois: Either a neutral gender or genderless identity
Non-binary: not within the male or female categories.
Non-monogamy: not practicing monogamy, can include friends with benefits, open relationships, swinging, or polyamory
Orgasm: a release after a build up of pleasure. This is a feeling. It can cause physiological responses like shaking, tightening of the muscles, moaning, quickness of breath or holding your breath, or ejaculation but really this varies so much from person to person there’s not really a way for a partner to tell if you have orgasmed.
Pansexuality: An orientation based on being sexually attracted to all genders
PC: (Pee-See) Politically Correct
PinV sex: (Pee- in- Vee sex )Penis in Vagina sex
POC: (Pee-Oh-See) People of Color
Polyamory: being able to love and be in a relationship with more than one person at a time
Polygamy: the state of being married to more than one person
Polysexuality: sexual attraction to two or more genders
Queer: can be used as an umbrella term for gender and sexuality minorities. Can also be used as a synonym for multisexualities like bisexuality, pansexuality or polysexuality. Can also be a term for someone that feels no other labels fit them
QUILTBAG+: Queer/Questioning, Undecided, Intersex, Lesbian, Transgender, Bisexual, Asexual, Gay and others in the community.
Relationship Structure: Almost like an orientation, some people prefer certain relationship structures. This includes monogamy, non-monogamy and polyamory.
Riding: when a person is on top of another person during sex
Romantic Attraction: Attraction to someone based on the desire to be in a romantic relationship with them.
Romantic Orientation: the orientation based on your romantic attraction.
Sapiosexuality: Sexually attracted to intelligence.
Sexual Attraction: Attraction to someone based on sexual desire for certain genders
Sexual Orientation: orientation based on sexual attraction
Sexual Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have sexual activity
Sexual Response/Arousal: The purely physical bodily reaction to stimuli
Skoliosexual: orientations based on sexual attraction to non-binary people
Smegma: (smeg-muh) secretions that get caught in folds of skin. It’s most commonly used for the white discharge like stuff found in and around foreskin but it also occurs under and around the hood of the clitoris.
Social norms: expectations for how people in a community should act or think. Growing up, people come to think of the prevailing norms as “natural” or “normal.” In fact, norms vary from place to place and over time. Prevailing norms often pressure people to meet social expectations. They influence people’s attitudes and behavior. People who act or think in ways that are different from the norm may be viewed as inferior rather than independent.
SRS: (Ess-Ar-Ess) Sexual realignment surgery. When someone goes through surgery to change body parts that socially are used to denote sex, top surgery being the removal or addition of breasts, bottom surgery being on the genitals to create either a penis or vagina. Also known as gender confirmation surgery.
Stigma: severe social disapproval based on an individual’s personal characteristics. It may also arise when a person’s beliefs or actions do not comply with social norms. For example, in some places people face stigma because of their weight, sexual behavior, religion, or health status.
Trans: Anyone who does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. Could be any gender variant or trans person
Transgender: Person who does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. Etymology: same as cis, Latin. Trans means across or in science/math terms when groups lie on opposite sides of a given plane, so one plane being their designated gender/sex, the other plane being their gender identity. (some non binary people do identify as transgender as well)
Transsexual: very similar to transgender, this word is falling out of favour but if used usually use used to describe someone who is transitioning, going through hormones or surgery.
TW: (tee-Double You) Trigger warning
Two-spirit: a non-binary gender identity for indigenous peoples. Although it has different meaning in different communities it means having both female and male spirits within one person.
Vaginal Discharge: You vagina’s way of cleaning itself. Secreted from the vagina and cervix to get rid of dead cells and bacteria in the vagina.
Vaginal Ejaculation: secreted from skenes gland and is made up of the same thing secreted from the prostate found in penile ejaculation.
Vaginal lubrication: secreted from the Bartholin gland located on either side of the vagina and from the vagina itself during arousal.
Vaginismus: (Vag-in-is-mus) A medical disorder in which the muscles of the vagina clench upon penetration and make it very painful or impossible to be penetrated.
Vulva: external genitalia including the labias, clitoris, and openings of the vagina and urethra.
Vulvadynia: (Vulva-die-nia)A medical disorder in which the vulva or parts of the vulva hurt when touched or stimulate
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international womens day today
dont forget to include trans women, disabled women, women of colour, non-binary people who partly identify as women, queer women, all women.all of them. i don’t want to see any derailed posts today about shit like “international mens day” it doesnt fly like that
The most important reason why we need the word “cis” in our lexicon is because it tells the thousands of young trans people out there right now who are struggling with their sense of identity, some of whom do not even realise yet that that is what they are doing, that there is something that you can be that is not what you were told you could be.
I did not know the word “cis” when I was 8 years old, imitating the handwriting of the girls in my class. I did not possess this language when I was 15, and attempting to put on makeup in secret without the guidance of my mother or my aunts, and copying the clothing styles of the girls in my high school. I did not have this language when I was 24, with hair down to my waist, wearing my girlfriend’s clothes to work. I did not have this language at 33 years old, before I proposed to my wife, or at 37, when we decided to have a child before we got any older.
I didn’t even know this language at 40, when I finally understood that the days of my life were not going to be many more in number if I did not attempt to find out if the feelings I had been feeling all my life would lead me to a better life.
But I certainly knew the word “transsexual”. I knew the words, “Renée Richards” and “Wendy Carlos”. I knew the word “freak”. I knew the word “mutilation”. I knew the words “liver damage”. I knew the words “shorter life span”. I knew the words “no children”. I knew the word “faggot”.
We need the word “cis”, because those children need to know that their choices aren’t limited, not anymore. Those children need to know that the alternative to “man” isn’t “freak” and the alternative to “woman” isn’t “abomination”. Those children need to know that “abnormal” means “statisically fewer in number”, not “unnatural”.
We need the word “cis”, because all the children of this Earth need to know that “cis” is just one thing you can be, and not what you necessarily are.
WHO IS READY FOR SLUTWALKUCF 2014? We sure as hell are!
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You cannot buy electronics with food stamps. You cannot buy cigarettes with food stamps. You cannot buy pet food with food stamps. You cannot withdraw money with an EBT card (food stamps).
Do you know what else you can’t buy with food stamps? Shampoo, soap, laundry detergent, toilet paper, paper towels, tissues, tinfoil, plastic sandwich bags, toothpaste, cleaning products, tampons, pads, over the counter medications (such as Tylenol, Ibuprofen, etc.), and anything else you can think of that you cannot physically ingest for nutritional purposes.
Do you know what you can buy with food stamps? Food.
Do you know what it’s like to scrounge for change to buy non-edible necessities, use a credit card and EBT card (food stamps) during the same transaction, and then have the person in line behind you judge you for buying the ingredients to make a birthday cake?
People who disseminate false information about food stamps have never had to use food stamps.
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Help fund Nico’s top surgery! ORLANDO, FL
Nico, the tenderest queer I know, is trying to raise funds to get their top surgery. For those who don’t know, top surgery is an excessively expensive and immensely relieving process.
Nico spends their time working for a non-profit dedicated to transforming systems of oppression that affect farmworker communities. When Nico is not working, they spend their time painting lovely watercolors, reading subversive literature and making everyone swoon.
Top surgery is an emotional, spiritual and physical necessity for this fine queer. The cost of this surgery is upwards of 7000 dollars. This is unobtainable with non-profit wages. Please donate whatever you can to help ease the financial burden of this life saving and altering procedure!
Just a few congratulatory tweets to the ever so graceful Lupita Nyong’o!
This is how black girls/women feel right now. I’m happy to feel this.
I am on cloud nine.
Congrats on Winning Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress Lupita Nyong’o!